Embodying the Sacred Slut - Working with Goddess Kali's Shadow

 

The sacred slut, resides within all of us. Both men & women.

It is an expression for that energy that is often suppressed, shamed, tamed; & severely judged. Within us & as a collective consciousness.

As I have been working with the Goddess archetype energies; as part of The Goddess Diet campaign, I like to invoke the sacred slut energy when I am working with the goddess Kali. In particular the shadow aspect of Kali.

Kali is the goddess of revolution. She always invites us to radical form of ego transcendence. She is a massive love force that is literally death to the ego. When she erupts in your life, she will cut away whatever is extraneous, or indulgent. She is especially hard on arrogance, that makes us believe prematurely that we are outside the rules, before our earned wisdom has legitimately given us the right to set aside rules in the service of higher values. Without her ruthless insistence on melting us to the bone, we’ll never get down to our essence, down to the apparent nothingness that alone can reveal our true vastness, and out of which REAL creativity arises. It isn’t enough to pay lip service to the beautiful idea that in our essence we are god living as a human being. To actually realize that, to BE it, demands that we step forward audaciously into our largeness and love, and that we be willing to look into and surrender our own darkness, our shadowy motives, our built in contracts, and our tendency to identify with the false self.
— Sally Kempton - 'Awakening Shakti'


The sacred slut, resides in the shadow aspect of Kali. As Kali governs sexuality; the sacral chakra, fire, creativity, and passion. So if we are suppression this part of our selves; namely our sexuality. We are suppressing Kali energy, and her power suppressed will often turn in on us, fester in the form of rage, attack our bodies in the form of illness & accidents, and surface in ways that self sabotage our love & the love others have for us.

I had an experience recently where I called upon the power of the sacred slut to kill a part of my ego. That part of me that seeks external validation & approval. To gain love from the outside of me for what I can offer, not by simply BEING ME. So often we rely on our achievements, our social status, our intellect & knowledge, our looks, our creative gifts - as a bartering tool to gain love. 

Which is all based on the ego. And its identification with the false self. It is based on shadowy motives - "if I give you this, you will love me in return." aka. conditional love.

So what happened? I invoked Kali and let her crack me open to nothing. I had an encounter where I allowed myself to be validated by the external. I gave away my power to someone else in order for them to 'approve of me'; to 'dictate my worth'. In short, I got severely rejected; where I was seeking approval & love externally. My ego was massively bruised.

My initial reaction.... was fucking angry. I felt Kali festering within me.

So what did I do. I reclaimed her. I reclaimed my power, my worth.

I embraced & welcomed my sacred slut. The shadow of Kali who uses her sexuality to get attention, to gain love, validation & approval.

BUT I did it for myself.

I searched YouTube videos of strippers to get a kick ass play list together; which I titled The Sexed Up Sacred Slut. And I danced in my lounge room. In some seriously sexy underwear. All for myself. That yearning to be approved by someone out side of me was now imploding inwards & I was giving myself so desperately what I needed. I was fucking myself; loving myself, loving how hot I looked & how sexy I felt.... All for absolutely no one else but me. It felt unreal, liberating, and free!

I transmuted that feeling of rejection, abandonment, low self worth/esteem, ego bruising, fired up anger - into something so beautiful and empowering!

I allowed Kali's shadowy sacred slut side of me, support me to explore a deeper part of myself and kill it; to allow for what was really festering under the surface. The need for love & approval externally.

This is the power of the sacred slut, she is that energy that is the exhibitionist, the out there overtly sexual extrovert, wild crazy bitch! When we suppress this energy (in both men and women), it feeds her more and more and she sneaks out as shadowy behaviour.... that need for approval external magnifies bigger and bigger. Because we are not owning this energy that resides within most of us; that just wants to be seen, to be the star, to be the narcissist, or the sexual seductress.

Once we give this energy the container to express itself freely. We can transmute the energy into the higher chakras - solar plexus & heart. Essentially into our personal source of power & unconditional love.

Myself and a friend here in Bali Imaya Sabine from SoulFood Passionfruit have been inspired to create a play shop for women around this exact thing. So please keep your eyes out & if you are not in Bali feel free to connect with me 1:1 to explore different ways I can support you embody more of this energy & use it in your every day life with supporting any parts of yourself you wish to let go of that are not serving any more.