Is your inner masculine cock blocking you as a woman?

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I recently shared this as an instagram post, and this is the extended version.

Straight up, sisters… is your inner masculine cock blocking you?

What do I mean by this exactly?


Well, I recently got the reflections from a dear brother that he felt this, that there was a warrior man literally standing near me (energetically) & he was dominating & overprotecting my feminine essence. And so as a result, men were afraid/intimated by this warrior man inside of me ..

Can you relate?

This is my armour.
This is the collective armour.
What are we trying to protect?


When we get hurt we naturally, begin to build the cage around our hearts and so the armour thickens.


And it’s okay, to spend some time here while healing.


But we must know when it’s time for the armour to come off, & for the masculine protector inside us as women, to put down his sword that may actually be non-serving (repelling to men), to trust in our feminine radiance, not to constrict or hide her away only for his eyes.


If we experience this inner relationship with our inner masculine energy (being that of over protective, controlling, not trusting the feminine radiance) - then manifests partners who portray this controlling insecure behaviour.


The inner man inside us as a woman is what is going to become reflected on the outside.


When the inner and outer masculine tries to control & shame or suppress feminine radiance, it is simply coming from fear & insecurity of not trusting her.. and wanting to keep her all to himself.


This is the worst thing to do to a woman.


Or to anyone in general for that matter.


The ultimate is when masculine celebrates her radiance, her sensuality, her sexual expression unleashed & let’s the world see her shine AND claims her at the end of the day! Omg hot!


Being both free & claimed at once.

How do we move from cock blocking inner masculine to mature superior man (as David Deida would put it)??


It all begins within.


I’ve had a deep hard talk with the inner warrior inside of me, who has been cock blocking for too long now & put him beside my feminine radiance, and no longer in front. I suggest you do the same if you are experiencing this same dynamic.

I am talking, literally have a conversation with your inner masculine energy. A great tool is my Masculine Feminine Balancing Guided meditation which can help you create this inner dialogue.

Another tool is take a look at your wounds around father and the masculine in general. 9 times out of 10, women develop an overly developed masculine protector, because they never actually felt safe as a young girl by their own father (which is most of society sadly). So as a coping mechanism we take that energy on ourselves.. This serves to some extent, but now as adult women, we need to understand that our little girl is safe, and as a woman, we no longer need such overly protective armour. Of course there is always an inner warrioress/warrior present, but I am talking about if it is literally running the show and you struggle to ever take off the armour, let go, relax and surrender.

Things like positive affirmations, inner child work, working with my subconscious mind through my menstrual cycle, have helped me rewire the subconscious belief patterns around feeling unsafe as a child, lacking father protection, and thus that affecting my adult relationships.

Another aspect is rewriting your man story. What we meditate upon, becomes. If you are constantly bitching about men, and their shit behaviour and how much you cannot trust them, well surely you will get men like that in your life. Instead of buying into collective bitchy gossip berrating men, walk away and don’t offer input. Instead find good men in your life, or community or men you follow and use them as positive story… So each time you have a thought ‘I cannot trust men’… Then turn your focus to an example of a man you can actually trust.

The final piece is working with your inner warrior energy, in the form of the archetypal energy of the goddess Durga - she is the warrior woman, protector, amazonian woman who evokes a healthy balance of this warrior/ess energy. So as I mentioned as opposed to cock blocking and protecting you to the point of disempowering you and hiding you away so no one can reach you, rather just holding a healthy energetic sword of protection around you, with the balance of receptiveness and an actual opening/invitation for men to come into your life. This energy is needed but in excess it can be destructive, like all archetypes, we need to bring it into a healthy balance. This then creates that spaciousness & INVITATION for the external masculine to be there & know that he can take you to places that you cannot take yourself.

If you are wanting a direct experience of how to cultivate this healthy inner balance of masculine and feminine, then check out my The Dance of Shakti Women’s Retreat in Thailand 15-21 December, where we will be specifically focusing on the feminine archetypes and goddess energies as they show up in our every day life… Durga is just one archetype we will explore to bring into balance.. learn more & enrol here.