Like anything, when you are looking for it, it is bound to never show up. Because behind that looking for is a desperation, a need, a feeling of lack; and the universe works in such ways, that it will not give until you are free from those qualities of need and lack. Rather gift you when you least expect.
I am constantly teaching women about their menstrual cycles; in particular how to connect with their sacred "moon time" & their beautiful bodies. That I feel it is necessary to share with the gentlemen, some wisdom, tips & insights into how to best support the women around them during this most beautiful time of the month.
When we do not resolve and come to a sense of completion energetically with ex partners, we unconsciously find ourselves, repeating the same old patterns, and projecting all that was unresolved from that past partner onto our new partners. It is like we just bring all this old garbage, again and again, and wonder why we keep attracting the same scenarios over and over. Not getting the love we want and so deserve.
One of the greatest core wounds I see in others, and always face & thus tends to be one of the biggest roadblock on my opening to love is, mistrust, and betrayal. Given the above experiences & situations, how the fuck are we meant to trust a man? No wonder so many of us shut down sexually, the amount of trauma we associate with the untrustworthy masculine, leaves us pretty weary, on physical, emotional, and sub conscious levels.
Dancing in the 'Tantra' scene for the past 8 years, has shown me all different ways of relating. You see for me, my parents relationship was no basis to go by, if I ever wanted to be in a healthy love filled relationship. So I set out on an endeavor to seek out what a healthy relationship looked, and felt like, and have, like most of us fumbled along the way.
So many people think that Tantric Sex consists of marathon 6+ hour love making sessions, and often get put off by this simple fact. In a world that is so time poor, with all our other commitments, most people cannot even find time to make their own meals, let alone prioritize their love making sessions.
My most favourite time of the month is the 5 days of my period. It never used to be this way. As an ex high flying corporate gal, having the monthly pains, discomforts, moods just didn't really go down well in the masculine dominated business world I was in. So I was got onto the contraceptive pill as quick as I could to "balance myself out" & suppress those perceived "monthly inconveniences", this actually was the most horrible 6 years, where I felt totally disconnected from my feminine essence & once I stopped the pill, my period actually vanished for 1.5 years after. This time was a time of deep inward reflection, disconnection from the essence of being woman. And the day it finally came back I felt reborn, and since then have felt forever grateful to receive my monthly bleed.
For most of my life, I had absolutely no idea how to 'flirt'. 'Seducing' was not a natural thing for me. Something always felt wrong, forced or manipulative. I now look back and it seemed like an abuse of the feminine power. So I had this strange relationship with how to 'be sexy/sensual' yet not 'lead men on' or give them the wrong idea. So naturally, like many women, I began to shut this part of myself down.
We all know the power of our sexual energy.
This energy creates life. Literally, the physical act of sexual union, between man and woman; is responsible for the alchemy that creates new life.
But on average, out of the many of times we have sex in our life, how many times is it being used to create a child? Sometimes once, twice or even never?